I dunno, we never designed this one for co-op so goodness knows what might be missing. I see you did copy the ai file from SP though, so its not that and I have checked the info file, that shows a co-op mode as well.
A long shot, but try renaming it from 48 to 16. Go to the maps info file and open the bandomeer_refinery_assault file with notepad. where it has an entry for co-op, change it from 48 to 16.
I'm saying to try this because dedicated server support tends to default to 16p map sizes for co-op, larger ones aren't recognised by the bf2142 gamecode, unless you know how to edit things server side.
PS< doing this will prevent you from playing in online servers for FirstStrike unless you back everything up and reload the default files.
Bite my shiny metal Tie Fighter!

